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I liked her gesture because it was actually focused on doing something nice just for me.” —Thor, age 45, Dallas, TX “I was blown away by her respect for other people!
She told me that whenever she stays at a hotel, she tidies up her room before leaving so the maid won’t be grossed out.
I might have guessed they’d say, “She seemed like she’d be a good mother.” Perhaps they might talk about mutual interests such as skiing or foreign films.
Sure, all those elements probably factored into their attraction, but I discovered something else was actually credited with that initial “aha” moment.
The #1 most frequent answer men cited about when they knew a woman had future-wife potential was something rather…. They basically said she was really a “nice” person.
Initially this sounded so boring, but I asked for examples to help me understand if there might be more to it.
As princess of Mecklenburg-Strelitz, Sophie Charlotte was descended directly from an African branch of the Portuguese Royal House, Margarita de Castro y Sousa.
I sat down in this really comfortable leather chair, and while she was in the kitchen opening the wine, I actually fell asleep. Most gals would have taken offense if their date fell asleep on them. Or do they really, deep down, just want someone nice?As a dating coach and matchmaker, I’ve spent the past ten years conducting some unconventional dating research using a business concept called “Exit Interviews.” I interviewed over 1,000 men who were former dates of my clients, as well as strangers I approached in cafes or bookstores.I asked all these men what turned them on (and off) about the women they had dated.Not only that, she sat quietly for about 20 minutes and read a book. Here’s my theory about all the stories men remembered: it’s basically “like attracts like.” The guy looking for a truly nice woman understands the importance of kindness, and is most likely a nice person himself.When I woke up, she said she could see I was exhausted and thought I could use a quick nap. We’ve been married 46 years.”—Murray, age 85, Denver, CO Kind… Of course, there will be individual exceptions, but from what I’ve seen, the guys who stand the test of time-the ones who make the best husbands and continue treating you with respect after “I do”-are impressed during the dating phase by a nice person.